100 Traits/Qualities I Wouldn’t Mind If My Next Girlfriend Had
September 23, 2009Obviously, I don’t expect a person to display ALL these qualities but maybe 15% would be nice. 99% would mean that person is pretty much exactly like me which, while it sounds great in theory, is a bad idea. I already have me. If you are 100%, you know who you are and I’m sure we can work it out.
So I wouldn’t mind is she…
- …is a nice person overall
- …can be an asshole and say the occasional snarky remark behind people’s back
- …is into comic books or at least open to the possibility to being into comic books
- …plays video games or at least does not frown upon people who do
- …also finds the level of pandering in most romantic comedies pathetic
- …is a fan of a sports team or three, especially the New York Yankees, New York Giants and New York Knicks
- …is NOT a fan of the Boston Red Sox or Boston Celtics
- …watched the same cartoons I did growing up
- …is employed
- …can cook
- …doesn’t mind that I can’t cook (yet)
- …is gainfully employed
- …isn’t a hardcore vegan or, if she is, isn’t a meat-hater
- …has a great and sick sense of humor that is somewhat similar to my own
- …loves going to the movies
- …loves horror movies
- …is into sci-fi movies and TV
- …loves giving gifts
- …has a great smile
- …has an infectious laugh
- …doesn’t let her friends and family make decisions for her
- …cares about my boring life enough to hear me complain about it
- …likes to go out drinking
- …is relatively intelligent but not so smart that I feel REALLY dumb around her or smart enough to realize she’s making me feel dumb
- …can dance
- …looks great in sweatpants and a ratty t-shirt
- …isn’t obsessed with what magazines, TV and movies tell us what love is supposed to be
- …is a great kisser
- …is a great hugger
- …doesn’t already have a “true love” who’s she’s not truly over and whose ghost I will always battling.
- …thinks Lost is awesome
- …is okay with the fact that I have a lot of platonic friendships
- …shows jealousy in a “Aww, that’s cute” way and not in a “I’m going to break your TV” way
- …fits in with all my friends
- …won’t make me choose between her or my friends if she doesn’t fit in
- …doesn’t hang out with a large percentage of people who suck (because my friends are awesome)
- …shows PDA but doesn’t get too schmoopie about it
- …watches at least 15 hours of non-reality television programs (preferably most of the same ones I do)
- …reads books
- …loves music
- …like bands and singers beyond what’s on the radio or on MTV/BET/VH1
- …likes going to concerts
- …loves to travel
- …went to college
- …loves New York City
- …loves karaoke
- …doesn’t feel like talking on the phone every night for hours on end after about 2-3 months in the relationship
- …wants to get married and have children
- …loves to stay in and just chill on the couch watching TV or movies on a Saturday night
- …gives great back rubs
- …believes in premarital sex
- …is very compassionate and understanding
- …has a driver’s license
- …is passionate about what she believes in even if I don’t believe in it too
- …disagrees with enough of my general opinions to make our conversations/arguments interesting
- …does some form of exercise
- …loves to eat
- …hates what happened to Heroes after season one
- …thinks Jack Bauer is a god
- …has enough of her own life that we don’t have to spend every waking hour together to be entertained
- …is geeky and/or nerdy about something
- …doesn’t take quizzes in “Cosmopolitan” and magazines like that
- …doesn’t have a nasty temper
- …isn’t a Debby Downer
- …loves new technology
- …is more extrovert than introvert but not so much of an extrovert that I have to bring a tranquilizer gun with me when we go out
- …is a little bit competitive
- …isn’t lazy in bed
- …doesn’t believe in the concept of a person having a single “soulmate”
- …doesn’t steal the covers when it’s cold
- …isn’t necessarily stylish but can pull together a knockout outfit when the moment calls for it
- …doesn’t subscribe to antiquated gender roles
- …has a nice or completely unnoticeable smell to her
- …is a romantic
- …prefers to discuss issues and problems as they occur as opposed to 2-3 months later when I forget to put away my dirty socks which somehow made her think about my issues with sharing.
- …tries to make me a better person through encouragement and support and not by nagging and ultimatums
- …doesn’t talk during movies and television shows
- …doesn’t freak out when the “happy happy joy joy” phase dissipates after three months or so
- …hates Valentine’s Day
- …is an inactive member of whatever religion they practice or an atheist
- …is great at beer pong because sometimes I need to be carried when I’m having an off game
- …gives great advice
- …doesn’t have too many mommy/daddy issues
- …doesn’t hold me to anything I’ve written on this blog over the last seven years (starting with this list)
- …believes in going dutch
- …isn’t a close talker (in general not when it’s sexy whispering)
- …doesn’t watch Fox News Channel unless it’s just to see how sad and scary it is
- …isn’t a racist or a bigot
- …doesn’t restrain herself from cursing unless it’s during dinner at my parent’s house
- …isn’t afraid to make a fool of herself
- …isn’t embarrassed by me
- …is Internet savvy
- …has her own DVR at home
- …is a trusting person
- …isn’t a crazy workaholic
- …isn’t a commitment-phobe
- …isn’t totally obsessed with getting married
- …believes me when I compliment her and not that I’m “just saying that because…”
- …is willing to settle for me
- …is Halle Berry
Let’s be honest. This list says more about who I am than who I am looking for.
If you were wondering how I came up with the list, I just thought of the qualities I loved most in my friends. Unfortunately, I’m not friends with Halle Berry…yet.
Sooo…I’m probs about to do a 100 Traits It’d Be Cool if My Next BF Has list…probs definitely about to do it.
It’s a little long for a match.com posting, but with some editing, you may just find her.
Either we’re too much alike or I just meet most of those qualifications because we’re friends. And we’re both awesome.
As for compatibility, we do look cute together.
69/100.. it all makes sense now. :/