What was the best part? (Tabitha)
My favorite part was the dollar dance. I was concerned that it would slow the wedding down but it really gave me one on one time with a lot of people that I may not have gotten a chance to otherwise. Some of my male friends also got in on the fun. The only downside is that I got inadvertently stabbed by so many pins, I started to feel numb by the end of it.
Explain, in detail, how your wedding did or did not lineup with the following “famous” movie/TV wedding scenes/moments: The Graduate, Ross’s wedding to British Emily, My Best Friend’s Wedding, any Godfather wedding, Twilight wedding, Father of the Bride, The Muppets Take Manhattan, Kill Bill and The Princess Bride. (Jennie)
Well, no one tried to break up the wedding, said the wrong name, was or became a vampire, arranged for the strong arming of any movie producers or was killed before it happened. Also, since there wasn’t a siege on the church making us skip to the “man and wife” part nor was it originally a Broadway musical that Cindy used to trick me into marrying her, our wedding was pretty standard.
I’ve rarely seen groom’s input as many of their own details as you did (cufflinks, comic props for the photo booth, Batman socks). What made you not take the “just tell me where to show up” route? (Tish)
I really thought hard about this one and frankly, it is because Cindy let me. I had a lot of wild ideas about things I wanted to do for our wedding and if, at any point, Cindy had said “no,” I wouldn’t have done it. I might have been salty but I would have acquiesced.
Everyone knows that weddings are really about the bride. That’s why there aren’t any groom magazines. Luckily, Cindy isn’t one of those brides. She let me express my geekiness all throughout our wedding. This is my big day too!
For the record, the comic book props for the photobooth was all Cindy’s idea. I just ran with it. Just another reason I knew I picked the right woman to spend the rest of my life with.
What’s one thing (besides getting married) that you are so happy happened? (Sheila)
There was a point when the DJ started mixing reggae music with some Mexican songs and members of my family and Cindy’s family were dancing together, cheering each other on like it was a dance-off. I was too far away from the dance floor to join in but it made me happy to see everyone having a good time.
Funniest thing said by anyone? (Sheila)
Without naming names, one of the members of the wedding party was in bad shape during the reception. When Derreck, one of my groomsmen, told me about this, he said that person was sitting outside “contemplating his life.”
What was the one thing you anticipated happening that didn’t happen? (Sheila)
No one really cried. Cindy and I were joking all month leading up to the wedding , “Oh, you’re going to cry when this happens” and “Your dad is going to cry during father-daughter dance.” We even made a little bet about it. I almost lost during the vows but at the end of the day, everyone kept their money
What would you do differently? (Tabitha)
The one thing that stands out is the rehearsal dinner. Not that there was anything wrong with the dinner itself. Because we never said when the dinner was ending, I had family members showing up much later in the evening than anticipated (My family did nothing to dispute the stereotype of CPT all weekend). While I’m glad everyone showed up, I would have liked to have been wrapped up sooner so we could have gotten to the hotel and relaxed a bit (not that a slept AT ALL that night).
Do men actually get nervous or is that all Hollywood fodder? (Tabitha)
I was nervous but not about getting married. I was nervous about something going wrong. I was nervous about being late. I was nervous about crying during the reception (almost!). But getting married to the love of my life? I was so excited by that it was almost overwhelming.
Did you get to spend time with the people who came from the east coast for the wedding? Did it go by too fast or were you able to enjoy each moment? (Heather)
I definitely felt like I didn’t get to spend enough time with the people who came from the East Coast. One of the downsides of having a large wedding is you spend so much time going table to table greeting guests that you never really get to spend a lot of time individually with anyone. I know that people traveled thousands of miles for the wedding and I wish I could have spent more time with every one of them.
Everyone warned me but it’s true. Your wedding really does go by so fast. By the time we finished the garter toss, it felt like the wedding was almost over. While I was exhausted by the end, I wish I had more time to talk to people, dance and take photos in our booth.
It’s been over three weeks and I still haven’t written a post about our wedding.
That’s pretty bad. I’ve started writing it in my mind almost every morning but can’t decide which direction to approach it from.
While I sort all that out in my mind, I decided to try something different.
Either via e-mail or in the comment section, ask me any question about the wedding. I’ll take my favorite ones and reply to them in a post later this week.
Have at it, my few but faithful readers.
Photo by Michael Fletcher Photography
About a month after we got engaged, St. John Vianney, the church Cindy’s family attend and the church we were planning to get married at, was burned down by an arsonist. I remember attending the Palm Sunday service following the fire hearing parishioners sniffling as they sang “We Will Rise Again.”
100 days until the greatest night of my life.
Even though we’ve got a lot of things done, I still feel like we have a lot of details to take care of (Cindy has been better about writing about our wedding planning). However, one thing didn’t occur to me until recently
After attending Tony and Christina’s wedding in New Orleans and following Kevin and Jennifer’s wedding in Florida via Instagram and Skype, a small fear started to creep into my mind. What if our wedding isn’t fun? What if, after all is said and done, people don’t have a good time? I know I should be focused on making sure Cindy and I have the best wedding day we can possibly have but I don’t want friends and family to travel cross-country (or from other countries) to not have a good time.
My wedding is 100 days away and I’m already thinking about what people will say when it’s over.
Cindy also wrote a post about out 100 Day mark and our guestlist.
I wish I could say I didn’t see it coming but I did.
There were a lot of changes around the office in the last few months and began to fear for my job, a job I wasn’t particularly fond of. I thought I might have escaped the changing tides but last week the waves finally came crashing down on me. I was let go. Now I’m just another unemployment statistic.
On Sunday, Cindy and I finally had our engagement photo shoot with Michael Fletcher. We tossed around ideas all week where to go and what to wear and didn’t really settle until hours before meeting up with Mike. Cindy had gotten her makeup and hair done. I had gotten a shape-up of my beard (shout out to Headmaster Barber Shop on Pico) but couldn’t decide what to wear. In the end, I went with an outfit that would compliment the beautiful dress that Cindy was planning to wear. We also had some fun ideas playing on our competing baseball fandom and our geekiness (mostly mine).
I’d never done a photo shoot before so it felt weird to be directed on things like being casual but it’s hard to argue with the end result.
“So how’s wedding planning going?”
Next to “So how did you two meet?”1 I find this question causes me the most stress about the wedding. It’s not like we haven’t made any progress:
That feels like a fair amount of stuff so I don’t know why I feel like we haven’t done anything whenever I get asked about it.
I don’t think I’ll really start worrying until January. It’s easy to relax when you can say your wedding is “next year.” Once I have to start saying it’s “X months away,” it will start feeling like speedy freight train of costs and details.
1: We’re working on it.